Celebrate Your Engagement – the checklist before the checklist

Do you remember when you had to wait until nights and weekend minutes to call long distance from your cell phone? That’s how long we have been married and even engaged! Ben had proposed on a cold February afternoon on a trail we had hiked together the first time he visited me at college (the Virginia Creeper Trail in Damascus, VA). I remember telling him that I needed to help my roommate make extra quesadillas for a last minute party for a friend. So instead of hiking that day we would go the next. I promised that even if it was raining we would go. Sure enough the next day was super cold and it was sleeting outside. He still wanted to go- we both hate the cold. So I angrily put on my old hiking pants and shoes. Well at least I would bring my camera and tripod and get a few photos for my assignment for black and white photography class. My roommate thought I should go. On the way there Ben was awfully quiet. He is the kind of guy that once you get him on a topic he can talk a lot -so I asked if he was feeling ok. He said he was thinking. Thinking about what I asked. Oh nothing really he said. Once we got to a nice spot with a bridge we got our gear out and I headed to the middle of the bridge to start setting up my tripod. I saw him out of the corner of my eye at the end of the bridge and he called me back over to him. He was rummaging through his camera bag. As I walked closer to him he pulled out a ring box instead of a lens. That was pretty sly I must admit. He was on his knee and honestly the rest was a bit of a blur. I remember being blinded by the ring and excited and hugging and then kissing which he then he “said I guess that is a yes”! We were so excited. He wanted to get that ring on my hand and not have it fall in the rushing water below the bridge (why he was not on the bridge). It was an amazing scene with snow flakes falling. We enjoyed hugging a few minutes longer and then decided we could get in the warm car. We rushed back to show my college roommates the bling and then headed out to celebrate at a warm restaurant. We were calling family and so excited to share all of the news. My mom wasn’t home at first and so we finally got to tell her and Dad during our dinner. I remember she congratulated us and then as the party planner in the family she asked if we had we set a date? A date, hm I don’t know. So we looked at a calendar and guessed at a few options. We called so many friends and family we ran over our minutes but we didn’t care. Since I wanted to finish school we knew we would have a long engagement. One piece of advice I would I give couples, is to just take time to celebrate. Be engaged and excited for the new stage in your relationship. Calling each other fiance just sounds so cool! There will be plenty of time to plan and to create big ten pound binders with tabs. Celebrate this big milestone! Take a minute to see how you feel! Don’t just pick a date, it will probably change depending on your venue, family plans and budget. So just breathe and snuggle and go on dates. Be happy and ridiculously in love. Gross out your friends – they get it! So before the checklist even begins put enjoy being together and celebrating your engagement as the only thing on your agenda.  Be in the moment! And when you are ready for a checklist check out wedding wire’s helpful checklist:


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